Love as Reflection
We have already discussed more than once the importance of love as a component of the Magus’ Way. We have also spoken about how joining forces and mutual aid in life’s struggles make Magi more effective.
At the same time, the importance of love for the Magus is not limited to a mere sum of resources or even their multiplication.
Magi see that love can be (or rather — must be, since Magic is the Way of realizing possibilities) a path to energetic equilibrium, to that level of fullness of mind which it is infinitely more difficult to attain by other means.
It concerns the phenomenon of mutual complementation of energy channels, achieved when energies unite.
Let us recall once again that Magic calls love precisely (and only) the state of union of energies, the state in which egoism is extended to more than one incarnate being. In this sense, Magic, on the one hand, broadens and, on the other, narrows the common human notion of love.
So, Magi, like many people, have noticed that the conductors of consciousness in a person exist in binary correspondence — the “physical” and the “etheric” bodies most often exhibit opposite qualities — one of them attractive, the other expansive. Usually the attractiveness of the physical body is manifested as a feminine phenotype, and expansiveness as a masculine phenotype, although other combinations do occur. This character is connected with the presence of two types of energy movement along the conductors — the Life Force moves through the life-body, while the energy of desires (that is, Life Force activated and ready to transition into the Power of Awareness) moves through the Desire Body (the “astral” body). The first type of movement is described as a “vertical” current of power, the second as a vortex. Each of these kinds of movement occurs in two modes: Life Force can flow either from bottom to top or from top to bottom, while the Power of Desire can rotate either sunwise or widdershins. Typically in men, the Life Force flows from top to bottom, and the whirl of desires rotates sunwise; in women, the opposite is true. Often, the direction of the Life Force current determines gender, while the energies of desires determine gender identity.
However, we digressed into this discussion only to state a simple fact — most men have a “feminine” etheric body, and most women a “masculine” one.
Already in the Middle Ages, the assertion arose that “every man carries a woman within himself.” This component has its own character and habits and its particular qualities. It is well known that these two components manifest in the psyche; but for Magi, it is important that they also manifest in energetic interaction.
In other words, two people form a system that is energetically more balanced than one person (this, it must be admitted, is a somewhat simplified view, since the number of possible modes of movement is not two but ten — five masculine and five feminine — but treating those subtleties lies beyond the scope of this discussion and does not affect its essential conclusions).
By reflecting in one another, by pooling energies, loving people (let us emphasize that this does not necessarily mean a conventional “pair”; it may refer to other types of interaction) form a system that uses energy more efficiently, though at the same time — and this is true — a more closed one.
The last point is the chief danger of the closure of such complexes, and it is well known that very often, upon entering marriage, a person loses the impulse of their development and becomes stuck at some level.
The Way of avoiding this danger is also well known — Kabbalists call it the transition from the state “face to face,” in which the relation is balanced but creativity is impossible, to the state “face to back” or even “back to back,” in which the union of energies does not obstruct external manifestations.
What about the gaze in which the whole world and the entire universe are reflected? At some point, does this not contribute to the development of consciousness?
Why not? However, even when one person is a whole world for another, that does not mean the rest of the world should be ignored; on the contrary, such a system already speaks to the external world informally, it is already as macrocosmic, as perfect as the universe. The only danger is that, getting carried away with one cosmos, one might forget about the symphony of the others, ignoring them.
A magician who has crossed the Abyss forgets himself as a personality (or disappears as a personality). Does this mean that bonds of love also disappear? Personalities that loved each other end up being divided and unfamiliar?
Of course not. Love is absolute and infinite. Just beyond the Abyss, it is different than before it.
You can listen patiently to the heavens for a long time, calling for love, which (invisible to you) lies right under your feet.
Statistics show that every year more women are born than men. Also, a significant number of men die during wars. Does this imbalance affect the world’s energy, and what resources balance it? And another question, how does the global flow of Power move?
This imbalance affects the evolution of the world. It is balanced out by the resource called Time. Around its axis, together with the planet Earth, the global flow of Power moves. Girls represent the clock face, and boys are the hands on the clock.
Advice numen: Research on your own, as every mage is obliged to do when undertaking the study of this science, rather than searching for ready-made OTHER people’s answers on the internet. 1) imbalance exists only within the illusions of perception of a separate consciousness. 2) the force of equilibrium (law), the aeon of the planet, cosmocrats. 3) from north to south, from east to west – seek and you shall find. With respect, yodur.
Loki: The mage is obliged to check independently. A mage is not Robinson to explore. Fortunately, there are Authorities whose research can be compared, verified, and considered what every mage must do. And this site is a good model for checking a traveler’s research.
My love once, as if in another life, grew to the level of kinship. When you and a person are like the right and left hand of one organism. But alas, it did not pass the test with the ‘third element.’ And the worst thing was not the feeling of flight from a single ‘hello’ from HIM, which somehow needed to be hidden, nor the unbearable pain at night, but the uncontrollable growing hatred towards a loved one, to the point of wanting to kill HER (which was expressed on paper, in photographs, on objects). The mirror played a cruel joke, and two close friends… No, two dear beings fell in love with one person. And for one of these beings, the gates to hell open. When the next attack of hatred comes, that being understands that this is not normal, that it cannot continue like this, and that… It will never harm its dear being, that loves it, and that the ‘third element’ is not to blame for everything, and that the only one to blame in all this is… The feeling of LOVE itself. Love turns into hatred for love itself, hatred into indifference. And you do not even notice how your reason skillfully models all kinds of feelings. Wished – loved, wanted – stopped loving, when in fact behind all this lies cold indifference. And if you dig even deeper, you find the all-pervasive hatred, not aimed at anyone specifically, but directed at everything, at the space, at something vast and indescribable, elusive. And meditations and practices with boosting the heart chakra lead to journeys into worlds of death and sensations of it from small to large sizes. That’s what “love” can be like. One thing does not fit in the head: having found love for a loved one, we sacrifice it.
…in sacrifice. Love is not sacrificed.
You just need to get rid of the thirst for possession and jealousy. And also, above all, love yourself, instead of suffering because of others.
This story is unlikely to be related to love. Two close people fall in love with the same person due to empathy: the emotions experienced by one are transferred to the other; this happens quite often. However, then a fundamental poison enters: separateness, and its consequence – jealousy: ‘everything best should be mine’ (and the object of infatuation is always perceived as ‘the best’). Jealousy, desire for possession, envy – this is the demonic cocktail from which hatred is born – the force of destruction. The mistake was made at the very beginning when the desire for happiness for a loved one was overlooked (and this desire is a fundamental property of love), and co-joy in that happiness. If we were talking about ‘the hands of one organism,’ then hardly the right hand would be glad of the suffering of the left (and vice versa). I think the right way out would be to discuss the situation honestly with each other and jointly decide what to do about it, without trampling on each other’s feelings.
Enmerkar, I was curious to hear your answer and what you added yourself) What was there to discuss if I initially did not love this guy. It was an obsession, something confused with love. Theo, love does not require sacrifices… Correct. Passion demands them. That’s why such ‘love’ is usually in quotation marks. At that time, psychology helped me and the wild desire to defeat the beast that in middle school was associated with love)) I think everyone goes through something like this. Only the outcomes are different for everyone. And yes, I was happy for them, so those attacks of hatred and ‘love’ frightened me, which, of course, my friend didn’t know about, and neither did the guy, by the way. But in general, that’s not the point. The point is… Hmm. Discussing creativity and love for nature comes easier to me.
Attacks of hatred arise from the societal stereotype that you must choose someone only once, on the first try, and for life. (+ as soon as possible) This subconscious stereotype fires in such situations in the form of ‘if I don’t choose now – it’s all over.’ With such an approach, of course, everyone who stands in the way ‘deserves destruction.’ (There is much more in this cocktail.)
In ancient Greek, there were either 6 or 8 verbs for ‘to love.’ In some languages – 2 verbs, while in Russian there is only one… Maybe this is good, because Love is One, but it could also create a lot of confusion in everyday life… But I feel that in this context of the question, there are two kinds of love: Love as an irreversible vector (Agape) and Mutual Love as a vortex of unity. In the first case, the desire for happiness for both objects of love would lead to a small spectrum of options depending on the decisions of those objects (as a result of honest discussion) – from living in a three-way love to sacrifice and co-joy, and not hatred, from the fact that two beloved objects-beings love each other (even without you). But all this is, of course, joyful and beautiful philosophy if there is no real similar experience or experience of unrequited love (and I, just in case, have it, and as far as I know, I’m not the only one who answered). And so the second kind or aspect of Love is indeed a problem, just like the first. Because it is a Gift. It is Hesed, not Gevurah. I do not claim great knowledge of the Tree of Sefirot (and I do not want to argue specifically about it), but I am currently absorbed in thoughts about Hesed and Gevurah, in my interpretation – Mercy (Luck) and Necessity. Necessity can be identified and utilized, one can develop algorithms for obtaining wealth and different objects, and even situations. But with Love, this does not work. You cannot obtain Mutual Love by desire, even a very pure one (then one could have developed a ‘purification’ algorithm). You can take courses on ‘how to please girls’ and make yourself into a macho or simply engage in witchcraft; you can accuse me of all the deadly sins, but for me, this is one and the same – because both are lies, deceiving another being. It is an influence on another being with the aim, overall, of magic. But love is born when we see each other as we are in reality. So, Mutual Love is a manifestation of Hesed, it is the Mercy of Higher Powers, and thus it does not depend on us! Even if you tear your insides, consciously or unconsciously (most of the time) developing methods to beseech or extort it from Higher Powers. Either they will give it or they won’t… Pure mercy – the absence of Necessity. Although if one looks for a long time and/or prays for a very long time – I do not know what will happen – these are rare cases, and it is difficult to gather statistics 🙂 Although knowledge of the laws of a ‘happy marriage’ will provide a good surrogate for Mutual Love… And the main thing is – all consciously, but without the fullness of feelings… What remains? How to bypass the reaction in the form of ‘demonic hatred’? That is, the absence of Agape… Maybe Agape is also a Gift? Diagnosing is very important, but how to treat it? (I am currently exploring this question in the aspect of karma and the restoration of memory of past incarnations of the Monad, but I do not know what this will yield…)
For Mutual Love – another being must respond to your Love with their Love, freely choose you – This is Freedom!!! Any goal-directed influence will be violence (restriction of freedom). However, of course, ‘from the heart’ (specifically ‘from the heart’), one can express their Love in any way: from the accepted societal gifts of candies, bouquets, serenades, and other beautiful acts to madness. But all this does not guarantee the emergence of Mutual Love, that’s the catch. And the attempt to study the object of your love and adjust to be the ideal object for creating a response of love in the beloved object, in my opinion, is a violence against one’s nature and a deception of the object of love. Of course, you may disagree with me.
During the night, I slightly revised and developed my ideas) Moreover, I noticed that I only expanded the problem, without really providing any answers or recommendations. They may no longer be needed by a particular person. But perhaps they will be useful for someone reading this) So, I have another thought, how to foster Unconditional Love (Agape), if this is the initial element of the unclouded nature of each (Higher Matrix). Then the emphasis of efforts can be placed not on the edge of Love, not on the willful attempt to squeeze a ‘smiling face during a bad game,’ and not even on suppressing will against the ‘demonic cocktail’ of hatred and other dark feelings, since they have arisen, suppression will be a violence against oneself, and everything will drive into Shadow. Instead, all focus and effort should be directed at liberating the Psychocosmos from the influence of demons and Lamassu. And then as you cleanse and free yourself from demonic influence, the initially existing Light of Love (Epinoia?) will increasingly break through the cleared debris of distractors and iburs. / About Mutual Love. I want to share some theory, by no means claiming to be the truth, which I developed primarily for myself, trying to resolve similar problems. Each of us has at the corresponding level two Matrices: Anima and Animus. The ideal me in the aspect of Mutual Love and the Idealized one that I am seeking. But in actual reality, I am not entirely that, and there are no other people who fully reflect my Anima. Simply because there is nothing perfect in this world (perfection is only potentially). But there are people who carry my Anima (reflection) to a greater or lesser extent. Thus, one must accept the postulate that Ideal Mutual Love cannot exist (at least on this side of the Abyss!!!) by definition; but at the same time, there are not one, but many people with whom Mutual Love is potentially possible to one degree or another approaching the Ideal of Feelings, depending on both the independent ‘gifts of Fate’ and the personal efforts invested in each other. That is, no matter how painful it may be, one should not fixate on one painful situation that has arisen in life in Love but widen one’s View (Consciousness) and accept the idea of multivariability and move on, seeking further those with whom Anima/Animus may lie, possibly in an even greater number of properties and correspondences to me.
Maxim, I just want to thank you. In such a case, everyone helps themselves) Although I wrote a story, it is superficial. There is so much that remains inside at the level of silence. I want to respond to something, but I don’t know what. Can I just sit and observe the internal alchemical reaction that your words evoke?)
One can speak of passion, no… scream! From the overwhelming and overflowing emotions that capture you. But how can one speak of love if it is silent? Only through action or inaction, without trying to disrupt someone else’s union in favor of your passion, which brings suffering… That pushes you to crimes against love. For all those years, I thought that I couldn’t love and that ‘love’ is to blame – it’s torturous to understand. But now…. thanks to Maxim and you, I have found the unspeakable muted subtext of this story. This feeling of gratitude to all, this feeling of something too subtle and tender inside, as if it is your personal secret that brings you joy. It does not disappear; we just stop hearing it.
Maxim, yes, you are right, society has accepted such methods of ‘winning love.’ Moreover, violent expansion occurs from both sides, hence discussing Freedom as such is impossible. The interrelation of the persecution of the Female nature, started at one time, led, at the very least, to the suppression of the sensual beginning and the ability to hear oneself and another, thus the ability to create and at the same time the Freedom of Self-Expression is affected. In my opinion, the activity of an orchestra that has beautifully performed a Symphony is the Ideal of interaction we should strive for. And the number of initially ‘solo’ musicians can vary depending on the situation.
Thank you all immensely for the understanding and support) I did not expect that my modest ideas would find such warm responses. This is very valuable to me. Good luck and Strength to all of us in moving forward)
And Love…