The Spirit of Possession
The greatest problem facing every person is an accurate appraisal of the resources available to them.
It is precisely the over- or underestimation of these resources that leads to most problems and failures on the Way of Magic.
In fact, the task reduces to defining one’s boundaries, capabilities, and possessions.
Moreover, by “possessions” one can mean anything — objects, knowledge, Power, and even one’s aspects of personality.
It is precisely the knowledge of one’s boundaries that drives expansion, and therefore the development of consciousness and the realization of one’s potential.
At the same time, the chief obstacle to this development is the overestimation of one’s resources, pretending to possess something, and thus the loss of incentive to attain it.
One of the most typical examples of this situation is human relationships. On the one hand, the desire for love is one of a being’s most fundamental drives, arising from the sense of being part of a greater whole and the urge to unite, reintegration into that whole.
But on the other hand — something intervenes in this process that perverts it and turns a powerful force for development into an insurmountable obstacle.
This something is the Demon of Possession, the Mother of all demons, which distorts an accurate perception of oneself and one’s surroundings.
People, forming one whole by what they take for love, often fall into the most artful of all the traps set along their Way of development — they begin to strive to possess one another.
Instead of pooling their resources to increase each person’s possibilities, they enter into a competition to possess the other party’s resources.
Instead of “mine” + “mine” becoming “ours” — a common resource available to both parties — the blanket gets pulled, and the shared resource’s real owner becomes (often alternately) only one of the parties.
The key distinction here is precisely the difference between “mine” and “ours” — and it is here that the substitution occurs: instead of forming a single being with a new, broader inner harmony and wider possibilities for development, the result is a union that becomes a system with a giver and a receiver, and these roles may alternately belong to either party.
In fact, this is a transactional relationship of “you give to me, I give to you.” “I’ll wash your socks, if you buy me ice cream.” Or, for example — “I love you for your mind” — often means “I can use your mind.” “I love you for your beauty” — in practice becomes “your beauty belongs to me.”
Instead of increasing the possibilities of each side, this kind of relationship destroys them, turning them into consumers of resources — that is, into Qliphothic beings.
The only difference is that possession comes at a price, but as the relationship develops the situation usually worsens — less and less is given, and more and more is demanded.
The Magi long ago noticed this tendency, and for that reason often preferred solitude.
Is it possible to reach a state in which relationships provide harmony without mutual exploitation? Each person answers that question for themselves. But one must not forget that the queen of evil herself stands in the way.
I will try not to wait and want anything from other people, but only to give. There’s a lot to think about. Good article, thank you.
And who is the queen of evil?
On the one hand – to give without expecting anything in return – such is unconditional love. On the other hand – there will be an imbalance, which also seems undesirable. And then, accumulating Power is important for both the magician and the non-magician. How to combine all this? Are these situations of the Gebo rune?
Unification leads to an expansion of possibilities, i.e., demanding more is normal, but the desire to give less arises… possibly because what one desires is not fully realized by others, leading to a symmetrical reaction of reducing the return for the first… and so on in a cycle. One of the solutions is not to desire too much and not to allow the coefficient of wish fulfillment to influence one’s own return. In any case, Love is a joint battle, and if there is no support or right attitude from one side, no strategy will help.
Mutual or non-mutual love is a condition of the path. The desire to give without expecting anything in return, without looking ahead, in both cases – is a condition of freedom.
I think it is very possible to love a person for their mind. Some time ago, I visited your blog and after reading several articles, I ‘fell in love’ with their content and have been here for almost two years now. However, there is always a specific person behind the articles. Consequently, I ‘fell in love’ with you, Enmerkar (after all, there are different forms of love, you mentioned this yourself). However, there must always be some Primary Cause for the emergence of a phenomenon, for example, for love to blossom, there needs to be a ‘matching of energies.’ And this is already a condition, meaning that love is not unconditional in this sense. I understand that there is a difference between ‘condition’ and ‘conditioning.’ But still, a Primary Cause must exist. I love you for your mind, sincerity, and passionate attitude towards Magic. I do not attribute any negative meaning to this phrase. I believe that most regular readers of the blog love you for the same reason. This is one of the few blogs where people gathered not to throw mud at each other, but to learn. ‘To learn’ means ‘to utilize’ your, Enmerkar, mind and knowledge. For this, I am very grateful to you. Thank you also for continuing to maintain this blog (even though you were going to close it!). P.S. Indeed, one can love a person for their mind. As Borges said: ‘There is no thing in the world that has only one side.’
It’s good that they didn’t shut it down. 🙂 In the lives of people reading articles from the blog, miracles happen…..this is true Magic – the Miracles happen by themselves.
The eternal imbalance between Nahash and Ea. What does a person possess? – their body – and do they really possess it? Loneliness has its advantages…but…..at some point in life, it dawns on the consciousness – solitude is also an illusion. The magician who took the name of a Siberian river said: “It is impossible to live in society and be free from society” – and he is right. When a person tries to take resources from others, and after seizing, boasts – here, I am such a loner, in my opinion, such a person lies to themselves. A loner is when completely alone – somewhere in a cave, excluding all possible interactions with other people – there are very few of them, and even then, as a rule, they leave for several years and then come back. It’s no coincidence that the most cruel torture is solitary confinement. Once, it seemed to me that the whole world is cruel, and people are evil, and I am – a loner – but these are illusions – the World repeatedly proves the opposite :)- there are kind, good people and there, where nothing is expected, they just gift you joy, good spirits or cook soup with pasta and porridge 🙂 and they feed you on a frosty winter evening in a dormitory, in a strange town – just for no reason – asking for nothing in return. I read in one of the fantasists about a planet where only one creature lived, which covered almost the whole planet with its body, it lived in harmony with itself until the people arrived and wished to possess its resources – then the war began – we – humans too – like the cells of one being – humanity, just that as a mass we have not yet matured to understand this fact and we cannot share who truly possesses what…
The blog opened for Russia, or I don’t know – was it blocked for everyone) but I waited – I like streams in which there is life. Though it is not particularly fun to enter and read primarily my comments – I’m already sitting here and even missing the fact that at least someone would attack me or something… Since there is no one to play good games with where everyone wins. I know there are such situations, when a complete opposite person, having discussed an issue with them without almost a constant war of opinions, just like that, without fear looking into their piece of truth, the truth is born.
Well, silence is silence…
“When there is no one to love – love the space”)
That’s what the blog’s author does.
If we are talking about my understanding of love, it is just logically, just as it is difficult to perform – the absence of fear to show oneself and look at another person without editing. To love at a practically adjacent stage, in my understanding, is to look. And not in complete admiration, but calmly – here is the flower, here are the thorns and at the same time, here is the whole flower)
Ultimately, this whole question of love boils down to whether we are ready to accept the one we love, with all their stories and things. And therein lies the choice, do I want to look at this world, at this person’s world, always. There are such people whom you want to watch always. And, in fact, everyone is like that. Only for some reason we hide ourselves… here is one of my new acquaintances, an older fellow, our acquaintance started with an argument but we turned out to be smart enough to accept each other’s versions, so later he sends me a stack of words mantra and says that “we’re all trash digging through heaps of garbage.” But it’s too late, I’ve already seen him, in between the metaphysical nonsense he said that he got his hair cut and now he has a gray hedgehog, and I said yeah, I think you’re a wonderful person with a hedgehog. And now we sit and dangle our legs on the edge of whatever that edge is. And we peacefully and usefully chat, although we look in completely different directions at life. And I won’t say that there are no disruptions regarding editing, I have none, I have worked on that separately and for a long time, but here it’s all, I saw the person. And I politely take off all diagnoses from my head and we chat equally peacefully.
And a quote to wrap up:
“If you can:
— Start your day without caffeine,
— Be cheerful and not pay attention to pains and ailments,
— Refrain from complaints and not bore people with your problems,
— Eat the same food every day and be grateful for it,
— Understand your loved one when they don’t have time for you,
— Let accusations from your loved one slide when things aren’t going well through no fault of yours,
— Calmly accept criticism,
— Treat your poor friend the same as your rich friend,
— Get by without lies and deceit,
— Fight stress without medication,
— Relax without drinking,
— Fall asleep without pills,
— Sincerely say you have no prejudice against skin color, religious beliefs, sexual orientation, or politics,
then you have reached the level of your dog’s development.”
Opinion: The importance of sensing one’s boundaries and the boundaries of others will help prevent the spirit of possession from spoiling relationships. Just like in sex – what is possible is explored cautiously. And the area of possibility expands cautiously. Thus, respect is a necessary requirement in relationships.
Though without risk, it won’t work, but it’s only more interesting that way.
I have a habit of thinking and dragging everything into schemes – I explain this just in case, that this is simply a manner and habitual behavior.
And from the comment, I began thinking further. Yes – boundaries are important. And considering my experience of sensing people (and this is no miracle and no additional options, everyone can do this), I simply studied runes to such an extent that one day I managed to feel another’s heart inside myself – the heart of another person, along with all their feelings. Not only the heart but all thoughts can be like photographed, and strong thoughts which are deemed magical effects are quite tangible and clearly manifest physically.
With this option – love appears as a doubling without mingling, like a system of communicating vessels. Which, in general, is confirmed by life and a bunch of examples – and the thoughts are pretty much the same, and the synchronicity, and you feel the other person as yourself.
And I do not know anything better than that.
And at the same time, I define boundaries for myself – the truth is that I have yet to meet someone perfect, and thus love can also be a loss of power at times. That is a thing that can be nurtured.
The boundary for me specifically lies in predation. When life-sustaining resources are touched.
I am not ready to sacrifice myself for anyone. No matter how much I love. And that is a choice for a person – to be alive and exchange, or to go weep in a corner, possibly forever. Because it is strange – a severed connection is perceived by predators as pain, and that something was taken from them.
For me, that is the difference between the Christian and pagan understanding of love – I will never turn the other cheek to one who feeds on the pain of blows.
The connection between boundaries and predation resonated. Hence, the practical recommendations – set your own markers and voice your opinions more often. Being able to say no, to growl – is invaluable skills for self-preservation.
Of course, where the boundary lies depends on the interlocutor. You invite someone to your garden for tea and a chat, someone to your living room, someone to your bedroom, while there are storerooms that are frightening even to open for oneself.
For me, love as a system of communicating vessels is not suitable. On the contrary, it is the separateness that troubles and does not give peace, constantly attracts. And the other always remains a mystery, which you open – layer by layer. And love itself is a mystery – it is never clear how long it will last – a shared path – like life, every day may be the last. And if it lasts long, it becomes stronger and stronger, calmer and deeper. You no longer splash on the surface but dive into such depths that takes your breath away. And then you grow into each other, like the roots of closely growing trees. And your crowns adapt to ensure there is enough light for each. And at some point, it becomes impossible to leave – it’s already like tearing apart a part of yourself. Both may get hurt, and perhaps they won’t survive.
Maria, what does it mean to “photograph the heart and thoughts of another”? What kind of diamond eye do you need to have for your own heart and thoughts not to leave a mark? Any artist depicting a real object sees it in their own way. But here, it’s something that is not visible to the eye. Perhaps one needs to cleanse their own prism to really see another person, rather than just their reflection in themselves, or even a reflection of themselves in that person.
Here is the translation to English:
1. I studied runes using the method of entering a flow.
2. In the flow, various repeated or strange situations begin to happen, which are impossible not to notice – for example, you see deer everywhere, in pictures, alive, everyone talks only about deer, and how people’s gaze fixes on them or how different people meaningfully look into your soul, so to speak, and say the same thing. It’s like a tripling effect.
3. With some things, symbols, and animals – it tripled so much that I wanted to “I don’t know what,” until I dug a bit and determined that it was “to know.”
4. Children discover the world by trying things out, experimenting. By touching things, then we learn to speak, and one of the forms of quite complete recognition is, for example, sex.
5. Not everything I saw and wanted to know could be eaten, seen, or talked about, and I was clearly dissatisfied with the result – I wanted to know everything. To know, for example, the symbol of the Valknut – but what to do with it…
6. Laughing at myself for this esoteric extremism – everything exists, I decided to solve this issue and learned how to double fields, so to speak.
7. We all checked this, for example, we agreed to look at the same sign and walked parallel to each other and then compared – it worked.
8. After further study in this manner, and precisely cleaning the prism – I accidentally managed to fully count all thoughts – in general, how all thinking works and to be exactly in the subconscious. Again, all of it was verified. The same happened with the heart – accidentally. And then it became a habit)) In fact, there is nothing better than knowing a person this way. But he always has his head… it’s usually good with such guests and as a rule – everyone wanted to monopolize this good.
9. Funny enough – every heart has its own song. You will never forget this person. And some hearts are strange – they beat like a metronome and that’s it. Those feel nothing, while the rest of the ordinary people feel this doubling like warmth. Well, as a rule, somewhat unusual events then happen, making it obvious to everyone that it’s not just warmth in the heart area but a fact.
I’m actually more serious than usual, it’s such a period, so it turned out to be quite thesis-like. Alive, that means)
Maria, it’s strange – I felt that you weren’t as serious as usual in this comment. And thank you for presenting your thoughts in bullet points.
If only you could see the kaleidoscope of my reactions! From “Pff, what’s this method of entering the flow about?” and not understanding the connections between the points, to the joy of clarity. It’s like adjusting a telescope and searching for the right optical position. And the bullet points – like stepping up the stairs.
Here’s what I “saw.” I’m writing this for those who are just as unserious as I am 🙂 and to cross-check with you.
1. Studying through the method of entering the flow means that you start to see the studied subject everywhere or find a connection with it. For example, children in kindergarten are taught about circles. And they start to see circles everywhere – in buttons, plates, wheels. Thus, new knowledge integrates with what is already known.
2. When studying in this mode, attention becomes so focused that some strange “optical” things start happening – they further concentrate attention on the object.
3. This gives an impulse for further, deeper study of the object.
4. Ordinary forms of study involve interacting with the object.
5. With some objects, you need to interact in a special way.
6. Doubling with fields – does this mean interacting with energies?
7. I didn’t understand the part about parallel walking; we’ll skip that.
8. “Doubling” with fields, did you gain access to another’s thoughts and heart? I’ll be frank – I’m very skeptical about reading ALL thoughts. They aren’t just one, two, or three. Access to the subconscious – for a certain moment and at a certain level – I allow for that possibility. You say that through this kind of entering, the other person feels good? Even if they didn’t authorize the doubling?
9. Very beautifully said about the song of the heart. You mention that this kind of field interaction positively affects some people. Besides warmth, what else happens?
Thank you for your response; it’s very interesting.
The author of the blog, in my opinion, is against discussions of specific methods, and this is certainly only one of them. Principally, yes – it was all like that. Plus, there’s the establishment of a connection with the Higher Self. And because of this, all the symbols appeared somewhat peculiar and with special effects. I will respond to something important to me (and I was very worried about it because for me, this is a goal and a life, not a special effect)) – you cannot duplicate yourself with another person without consent. And without duplication, thoughts are read from the outside, like energy, as Tavita says in the discussion of matter. But besides stones, there can be something else as well.
You can duplicate yourself with natural things because they want it themselves – stones, trees, animals,… and children. As a result, it looks like an instant recognition of everything that knows what you are duplicating with. And like love.
“Maria, what does it mean to ‘photograph the heart and thoughts of another’? What kind of diamond eye does one need to have? So that one’s own heart and thoughts don’t leave an imprint? Any artist depicting a real object sees it in their own way. But here – it’s something that is not visible to the eye. Perhaps one needs to clean their own prism to see clearly and to keep it clean at all times in order to truly see the other, rather than merely seeing their reflection in oneself, or even seeing oneself reflected in them.
Recently, I learned a metaphor regarding this. ‘To enter the state of a ringing bell.’ And in the East, they say ‘to empty the cup.’ One needs to turn off their own streams as much as possible while remaining as alive as possible, becoming almost transparent, and at the same time having a hook to catch what is needed.
It’s difficult. I’ve spent a long time learning. And yes, you will get dirty – and again need to cleanse yourself. Generally, the state is not always pleasant, and sometimes it can even be dangerous.”
I believe that imprinting is one of the foundations of manifesting a being, but at the same time, it is also a great magical opportunity—rebirth. Because having a certain state of mind and seeing its contradictions, one can rewrite everything. I agree with the danger of the state—being a blank slate could lead to reflecting who knows whom. Magical learning, and all learning in my opinion, is based on the principle of expanding or replacing the imprint. For example, so-called destructive sects— to replace the basic beliefs of a person, one must introduce them into a state of open consciousness and non-resistance—this is achieved through various ascetic practices and procedures like vigil—where the filter is turned off.
The Slavic rune Mara is capable of executing the process of erasing an imprint, for example. But I think it is more useful to know what it is like to be a clean mirror, in order to consciously choose the imprints one desires—such as fully perceiving a tree (which is equivalent to loving). Or to rewrite a program for oneself. In reality, this is exactly how newborns learn about the world. And my personal position is that one should not be afraid of their nature. It is worth knowing, loving, and living it, using and expanding possibilities. And it was terrifying the first time, just indescribably terrifying.
About communicating vessels – this is from observations and experience, and by the way, I tried to say exactly what about trees – so beautiful) The only thing is, I have the experience of recognizing the entire person immediately – even down to closets within closets.
And there’s much to say about vessels, from my friend’s yesterday comment about how after an argument with his wife, he felt powerless and wanted to disappear into the forests, to instances when a magical rupture of attachment can lead quite reasonably to a rapid death of a person.
And many simple life things – an acquaintance cheats on her husband and he immediately gets hit on the head with a concrete mixer, once again – a car overturns five times – he simply loves her and let her in, it resembles permission to influence one’s life. Many examples when after a rupture – the woman remains seemingly brainless while the men have heart problems. Countless stories about distortions.
And just a few – about how it sometimes happens.
One of them is about my great-grandparents, who lived cheerfully until 97 years old. The only thing was, they represented a rather closed system. However, after getting hit by an electric train at 76, my great-grandfather not only recovered but also lived quite well until he got tired of living. I cannot name this in any other way.
And since this exists, I wouldn’t call it dependence. It’s a fact and in my opinion worth learning to live with. There is a saying “Love cautiously. Don’t kill”
And maybe, since our gaze and our feelings can create such things, perhaps something wonderful could come out of this…
I am eager to try)
Maria, your comments on love repeat verbatim the comments of my two acquaintances, about the sudden phenomenon that happened to them, and both are from Moscow. Are you from Moscow?
No) I don’t think that it’s a trend in cities… maybe it is in time? Or in people, and so it has always been, we just looked in the other direction) Thank you, being sober I considered it so that nothing unusual happens. Well, little happens, since everything happens first time sometime, even in the world) But I haven’t heard of similar stories.
That is to say – you describe a very familiar event scheme – first a psychologist (or a masseur), then that very love for him, with all the closets in closets, and at the end – yes, he is milking my life force! There is a group of magicians in Moscow
Ah, so you are talking about seeking crutches in the form of gurus) Any. I emphasize, any).
The only honest teacher is life itself. Due to its impartiality, so to speak) I recalled a quote from Aleister Crowley – I haven’t read anything besides that, but the phrase is good – to understand a crime, you need to look at it attentively, calmly, and without bias.
If someone needs clarifications about predation – then its boundaries extend far beyond standard facts of domestic violence and infidelity, for example. They’re in the refusal to draw conclusions when the mistake becomes obvious. In a clinical refusal to understand. It’s best to walk away from such people without looking back. And to argue and take energy – well, that’s life and it’s awesome. Is a thunderstorm bad? Or snow, for instance…
Everything I speak about – I learned through experience.
A lot of it is actually quite obvious – the severing of all interconnections clearly leads to destruction. Where do our suicides come from – the world is shit, the world has been shit for a long time – goodbye.
Or those who slowly destroy themselves – usually these are children who have heard and knew that they are unwanted. The only way to heal them is for them to realize that they are the masters of their own lives. And whatever happened before – now I am responsible for myself. Or attaching to another program – addicts often get treated by finding faith, for example.
However, from my perspective, they remain not quite alive.
“This is something – the Demon of Possession, the Mother of all demons, disrupting the adequate perception of oneself and one’s surroundings.”
How is it that when people meet, they look at each other as sources of resources? Money, attention, energy, knowledge, and experience. What do you have, and how will you be useful to me? Instead of asking: who are you? Is my path aligned with yours? Who will you become for me? In this regard, we are also on the level of our dogs. (That was a great slap on the nose, Maria, thanks for the joke!)). Wild animals do not wag their tails and gaze into each other’s eyes when they meet, hoping for a scrap of food. We, just like our dogs, are limited in freedom, bound by dependencies, growing up in a system of “you give me – I give you.”
I remembered a familiar dog that lived on a leash for about ten years for a crust of bread; she was unjustly beaten (a badger killed her pups) and chased out of the yard. At first, she would return at night when her owner could not see her and leave in the morning. Then she became even freer. She became a wonderful companion and protector for children on walks in the woods. But oh, how her fur would bristle and how she would growl when someone tried to put a collar on her!
So, I wanted to talk about the system of upbringing. A person is born, helpless. They need resources. Their mother nurtured them, giving her resources until they were ready to be born. And when a little human is born, they must be nourished with milk, love, and strength until they are ready to give back, to love independently, and to be strong.
What model do mothers show – we are together, ours or yours-mine, and that is how it continues onward.
Just thoughts about what can be called love and the basis for choice.
Often, when a relationship falls apart, a part of a person stubbornly wants to preserve some loving feeling, perhaps a certain attachment to a “former” partner, maybe it’s called love as such or something else. But I have noticed that a part of a person always remains in us. This love can especially “hurt” after a breakup. When you notice on social media that your former partner has a new boyfriend/girlfriend, you scrutinize their photos with a critical eye, feel angry when “your beloved ex” does not respond with the same warmth as before, and it’s definitely better not to see them walking down the street holding hands (despite the fact that your love seems to have faded, a vague part of it lingers, trailing behind any “exes”).
And this love is alive with emotions, whether when the “ex” shows warmth or interest in us as before (this doesn’t mean it will be accepted by us to any degree, but it still warms), or when this love feels offended and angry at the “ex” stepping out of our emotional influence. Of course, it might just be my personal specifics. But what’s interesting is that such love, at best, sleeps and doesn’t stir when you think about saying aloud, to the World, that you want your “ex” to find their love, to fall into another’s hands and be absolutely happy with someone else, without remembering you in that part of the heart that you are jealously concerned about, as described above.
When you visualize all this, and consider that you will choose to refrain from such possession, your heart does not boil with those active emotions that were just there when your love was sulking, burning with resentment and jealousy (teeming with life and colors). Now, the heart is either in grave silence or filled with suffocating fear, and something screams that: “We will break our hearts like this, love will forever leave us, don’t joke about this! Can you hear me there?!”
At the same time, it is clear that such love does not have the absolute value of the other person’s good; we wish them well only to the extent that it does not interfere with our power over them and sustaining our own sustenance. And it is also obvious that the choice to fully let go of the other while accepting all consequences in the form of another person beside “Her/Him” is the optimal step for their happiness, love, and freedom. But in our aching “love,” there are no active emotions for this, no motivation, no energy to summon such a decision.
It is astonishing that we still sometimes choose to say this aloud and wish the person a tumultuous love without us; it is remarkable that the heart seems to break at that moment, falling silent in vacuum silence for a few seconds but then may fill up with goodness and the sensation that now ORDER is restored, at least in part.
This biblical instruction to not covet your neighbor’s wife has always troubled me. It’s clear that if we don’t limit ourselves to just desires, problems are guaranteed, but if I control myself, why can’t I at least wish for something? In general, I would like to see a world where people are guided by their own authority rather than by threats of conscience or the absence of such threats. I remember in this blog I expressed the thought that a person always knows the right thing to do if they choose honesty with themselves.
Enmerkar, thank you for the articles about the couple Sitri – Belet.